Masochism is sexual gratification from pain or humiliation.The Oxford dictionary defines masochism as “the tendency to derive pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from one’s own pain or humiliation.”

So let’s talk pain.  Or we can talk about pleasure.  Maybe we’ll just combine the two and add a healthy dose of fear while we’re at it.  With masochism there is rarely one without the other; at least in some form.  Masochism is almost like the extreme sports version of sexuality.

What happens when you experience pain?  Your heart rate increases, you breathe harder and faster, and you get a rush of adrenaline to help you deal with it.  That adrenaline rush can be addictive.  You might feel like every nerve ending is connected to the sexual core of your body and you’ll want to experience it again.  You may even want to up the stakes. A spanking with a firm hand causes you to catch your breath and squirm, you bottom gets warm and your skin starts to sting, but think how it would feel if the spanking were done with a wooden paddle, or a piece of stiff leather.  How about a good canning?  What if, while you were receiving your spanking, you were being told how bad you are and how much you deserve being spanked?

They pull your hair and scream in your face, they leave bruises that you proudly wear the next day.  It may sound like abuse, but what if it’s what you get off on?  You like the sensation of needles pricking your skin, fingers pinching and the belt being laid across your shoulders.  You might even get excited at the sight of your own blood.  It’s your kink, it’s your choice, and it’s your body.

Check out our handy little list below. What other ways can you find to enjoy your own pain, to be given the humiliation that you crave?

List of masochistic kinks

  • Being Bitten
  • Being Bled
  • Belts (being beat with one)
  • Branding
  • Breast Play/Torture
  • Breath Control/Asphyxiation/Suffocation
  • Bruises (marks on the body)
  • Caning
  • Catheterization (urethral)
  • Choking
  • Clothespins
  • Cock and Ball Torture
  • Crying (being made to cry)
  • Cupping
  • Cutting
  • Dilation (urethral sounds)
  • Douching
  • Electricity (violet wand)
  • Enemas
  • Face Slapping
  • Fear (being scared)
  • Feathers
  • Fire Play
  • Floggers (getting a flogging)
  • Forced Vomiting/Gagging
  • Gun Play
  • Hairbrush Spankings
  • Hair Pulling
  • Hot wax (candle wax)
  • Ice Cubes
  • Injections/I.V. Lines
  • Kicking
  • Knife Play
  • Nipple play/torture
  • Over-the-knee spankings
  • Pain (score as 1=little-to-none, up to, 10=a lot)
  • Piercing/Needles (play, temporary)
  • Pinching
  • Punching
  • Pussy Torture
  • Riding Crops
  • Scratching
  • Sensory Deprivation
  • Single Tail (Flogger)
  • Sleep Deprivation
  • Spanking
  • Speculums
  • Spitting
  • Swallowing (urine)
  • Trampling
  • Water torture
  • Weights (on nipples/labia)
  • Whipping
  • Wooden Paddles