Our Kinks

Submissive woman gagged with a leather strap.Let’s talk about our kinks and fetishes

What gets you off? I mean, what really hits you in the deepest darkest parts of who you are? You know…that thing that makes you catch your breath every time. Your heart pounds and your palms go damp, every hair on your body stands up and every nerve is awake and ready. You close your eyes, take a deep breath and feel the freedom of losing all your inhibitions.

Is it the hot wax that stings as it drips onto your bare skin? Or does the idea of decorating someone else’s skin get you off? Is it the feel of the ropes as you twist your wrists? Or do you want to feel the power of tying those knots?

Maybe it’s the swish of the flogger as you swing it through the air, the tremor of impact that runs up your arm as it connects with willing flesh. Or maybe it’s your flesh that yearns for the bite of the flogger. Does the scent and feel of leather send tingles running through your body? Do you yearn to release your dominant side?  Or maybe your inner submissive is looking for someone to take control. What is it you dream about in the wee hours of the night?

Do you dare find out? Or do you already know? The possibilities are virtually endless.

You could be just a click away from discovering something new about yourself, or deepening your understanding of your sexual tastes.

Let yourself explore what some see as forbidden…kinky.

Here is a list of possibilities, but it is by no means all inclusive. There are literally thousands of kinks and fetishes. Some would be considered mild while others seem more severe in nature. We will explore some of the more common kinks and fetishes. Click the links below to learn more about these amazing alternative lifestyles, kinks and fetishes.

Look for red links in the list of kinks below. Click the links for staff and visitor submitted descriptions and experiences with their own kinks and fetishes. Don’t see a link for your favorite kinky pleasures? Please submit your kink story so we can all learn about what gets you off.

SUBMISSIONS REQUESTED: We are asking members of the kink community to share your stories. Let us know what kinks and fetishes get you off. Be descriptive to explain your practices so we can all understand the kink better. Please submit your story using our online contact form.

List of popular kinks and fetishes among the alternative lifestyles

Role Playing

  • Age Play (younger/older)
  • Animal Play (human puppy, cat, pony etc.)
  • Daddy’s little girl (DD/lg)
  • Incest Play (pretending to be family members)
  • Interrogation
  • Kidnapping Play
  • Medical Exams (doctor-nurse play/medical scenarios)
  • Prison Scenes
  • Prostitution (being sold to others for their sexual gratification)
  • Rape Fantasies
  • Religious Play (priest/nun/rabbi/alterboy or girl)


  • High Heels
  • Collars (public or private)
  • Corsettes
  • Cross Dressing
  • Denim
  • Latex
  • Leather
  • Lingerie
  • Lycra/Spandex
  • Pantyhose/Stockings
  • Uniforms
  • Diapers
  • Hoods/Masks

Sexual Play

  • Anal Play and Anal Sex
  • Anal Plugs or Beads
  • Bestiality
  • Scat/brown showers (feces)
  • Creampies
  • Cyber Sex
  • Dildos
  • Double Penetration with dildos
  • Double Penetration with two men
  • Anal Fisting
  • Vaginal Fisting
  • Food Play
  • Forced Heterosexuality (being used by friends)
  • Forced Homosexuality (being used by friends)
  • Forced Homosexuality (being used by strangers)
  • Gang Bang
  • Glory Hole Sex
  • Golden Showers
  • Lactation (giving or receiving)
  • Licking (body homage with tongue)
  • Sex During Menstruation
  • Oral-Anal Play (rimming, receiving)
  • Oral-Anal Play (doing to another)
  • Phone Sex
  • Photos on demand (e.g., via text messenger during the day)
  • Sex (Heterosexual)
  • Sex (Homosexual)
  • Sexual Deprivation
  • Strap-Ons (receiving)
  • Strap-Ons (wearing/giving)
  • Swapping (being given)
  • Swinging (one or more other couples)
  • Swallowing (cum)
  • Talking Dirty (Talker)
  • Talking Dirty (Talkee)
  • Tickling
  • Vibrators
  • Wrestling


  • Collars (in public)
  • Erotic Dancing
  • Exhibitionism/Flashing (friends)
  • Exhibitionism/Flashing (strangers)
  • Forced Masturbation
  • Forced Nudity in Private
  • Forced Nudity (around others)
  • Humiliation, Verbal (public)
  • Led by a leash (public)
  • Modeling for erotic photos (I take photos)
  • Modeling for erotic photos (others take photos)
  • Outdoor scenes/sex
  • Public Places Sex, secret
  • Public Places Sex, open
  • Skinny Dipping
  • Slutty Clothing (public)
  • Voyeurism (watching others)
  • Voyeurism (watching me with others)
  • Video (watching porn)
  • Video (recordings of you)


  • Blindfolds
  • Bondage (light)
  • Bondage (heavy)
  • Bondage (prolonged)
  • Cages/Confinement (locked inside of)
  • Chains
  • Closets – restrained inside
  • Cuff Restraints (ankle and wrist)
  • Gags/Mouth Bits
  • Handcuffs/Shackles
  • Mummification
  • Saran Wrapping/Cling Film
  • Shibari (Intricate Rope Bondage)
  • Sleepsacks
  • Straight Jackets
  • Suspension


  • 24/7 Power Exchange
  • Auctioning Slaves
  • Bathroom Use Control
  • Being Drugged
  • Begging/Pleading
  • Boot Worship
  • Chastity Belts
  • Chauffeuring (driving)
  • Chores (domestic service/housework)
  • Competitions (with other subs)
  • Enforced Chastity
  • Exercise (forced/required)
  • Eye Contact Restrictions
  • Following Orders
  • Foot Worship
  • Forced Bedwetting
  • Forced Dressing
  • Forced Eating (gaining or losing weight)
  • Forced Journaling of experiences
  • Forced Masturbation (home and/or away)
  • Forced Smoking/Smoking Fetish
  • Forced to Sleep not in Bed (e.g., on floor)
  • Given (Loaned) Away to another to use you
  • Hair Coloring
  • Hair Cutting
  • Hair Shaving (body/genitalia)
  • Hair Shaving (head)
  • Hair Waxing (body/genitalia)
  • Harems (serving with other subs)
  • Having Food Chosen for You
  • Having Clothing Chosen for You
  • High Heel worship
  • Humiliation, Verbal (private)
  • Hypnotism
  • Initiation Rites
  • Kneeling
  • Lectures (for misbehavior)
  • Led by a leash (private)
  • Manicures (giving)
  • Massage (giving)
  • Orgasm control
  • Orgasm denial
  • Personality Modification
  • Piercing (permanent)
  • Prison Scenes
  • Punishment
  • Scarification
  • Serving as Art
  • Serving as Ashtray
  • Serving as Furniture
  • Serving as Maid
  • Serving as Toilet (feces)
  • Serving as Toilet (urine)
  • Serving as Waiter/Waitress
  • Speech Restrictions
  • Standing in the Corner
  • Tattooing


  • Being Bitten
  • Being Bled
  • Belts (being beat with one)
  • Branding
  • Breast Play/Torture
  • Breath Control/Asphyxiation/Suffocation
  • Bruises (marks on the body)
  • Caning
  • Catheterization (urethral)
  • Choking
  • Clothespins
  • Cock and Ball Torture
  • Crying (being made to cry)
  • Cupping
  • Cutting
  • Dilation (urethral sounds)
  • Douching
  • Electricity (violet wand)
  • Enemas
  • Face Slapping
  • Fear (being scared)
  • Feathers
  • Fire Play
  • Floggers (getting a flogging)
  • Forced Vomiting/Gagging
  • Gun Play
  • Hairbrush Spankings
  • Hair Pulling
  • Hot wax (candle wax)
  • Ice Cubes
  • Injections/I.V. Lines
  • Kicking
  • Knife Play
  • Nipple play/torture
  • Over-the-knee spankings
  • Pain (score as 1=little-to-none, up to, 10=a lot)
  • Piercing/Needles (play, temporary)
  • Pinching
  • Punching
  • Pussy Torture
  • Riding Crops
  • Scratching
  • Sensory Deprivation
  • Single Tail (Flogger)
  • Sleep Deprivation
  • Spanking
  • Speculums
  • Spitting
  • Swallowing (urine)
  • Trampling
  • Water torture
  • Weights (on nipples/labia)
  • Whipping
  • Wooden Paddles

SUBMISSIONS REQUESTED: We are asking members of the kink community to share your stories. Let us know what kinks and fetishes get you off. Be descriptive to explain your practices so we can all understand the kink better. Please submit your story using our online contact form.

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